Are you a caring person? Do you find yourself good with children or animals? Empathy and being able to take care of another life is one of the most important characteristics if not the most important in a relationship.
If the answer is no, that's okay. Do some soul-searching to see what kind of childhood you had. Try to work through any demons you have before engaging in a relationship. Know yourself. Seek therapy if it would help and try to become a better person who cares about others. And not pretend care, actual desire to help others, make others happy, etc.
Even though it is a bit old today, I would recommend Ross Jeffries "How to lay girls guide." Just critically think, because a lot of the stuff is ethically questionable to/bad.
There is a whole community around ex losers that call themself pickup artists...
I guess that’s the kind of advice that I’m trying to avoid. I can understand and appreciate someone telling me to be more assertive, take care of myself physically etc. and I’d have no problem with it. But a lot of the pickup artistry stuff goes beyond that into things that even I can tell are unhelpful.
I think there is some valuable advice in there that goes beyond simple pickup artistry. Maybe you just subconciously do the mistake to "present" yourself in the wrong light.
OP, this is certainly advice, but I would like you to consider whether you want to take advice from someone who uses the phrase "dangling from your nutsack in no time" unironically.
Oh, I have confidence alright. I’m confident I can single-handedly cause a sev at work. Jokes aside, I think I know where I stand compared to my peers skills-wise. I try to make up for it in other ways though, and it hasn’t been a problem for my employer so far.
Are you a caring person? Do you find yourself good with children or animals? Empathy and being able to take care of another life is one of the most important characteristics if not the most important in a relationship.
If the answer is no, that's okay. Do some soul-searching to see what kind of childhood you had. Try to work through any demons you have before engaging in a relationship. Know yourself. Seek therapy if it would help and try to become a better person who cares about others. And not pretend care, actual desire to help others, make others happy, etc.
Even though it is a bit old today, I would recommend Ross Jeffries "How to lay girls guide." Just critically think, because a lot of the stuff is ethically questionable to/bad.
There is a whole community around ex losers that call themself pickup artists...
I guess that’s the kind of advice that I’m trying to avoid. I can understand and appreciate someone telling me to be more assertive, take care of myself physically etc. and I’d have no problem with it. But a lot of the pickup artistry stuff goes beyond that into things that even I can tell are unhelpful.
I think there is some valuable advice in there that goes beyond simple pickup artistry. Maybe you just subconciously do the mistake to "present" yourself in the wrong light.
It sounds like OP is trying to find a romantic partner, as well as a way to improve himself - not just someone to fuck.
You need to learn to walk before you can learn to run.
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OP, this is certainly advice, but I would like you to consider whether you want to take advice from someone who uses the phrase "dangling from your nutsack in no time" unironically.
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> Your main problem is confidence.
Oh, I have confidence alright. I’m confident I can single-handedly cause a sev at work. Jokes aside, I think I know where I stand compared to my peers skills-wise. I try to make up for it in other ways though, and it hasn’t been a problem for my employer so far.